Better not to start with a plunge. This is very demanding. Sometimes friends invite single people to visit with the intention of introducing them. In this case, both know which meeting they are going to, and it can be awkward. Better to chat casually. For example, you learned that a girl is a volunteer. Sign up as a volunteer, go to meetings, sit next to a girl during a tea party or at a concert, and have a casual conversation. When you take the first step - take a girl out to a movie or for a walk - you are already making some commitments. Therefore, it is better to get acquainted by chance, gradually. In order not to injure the girl, not to reassure her in vain if you cannot later marry her.
Some people like blondes, some like brunettes. Someone slender, someone plump. I had a friend who was looking for a wife with glasses. He thought that if she was wearing glasses, she would certainly be smart. Someone would like his wife to sing beautifully.
As advised Bride-Forever do not focus on the girl's appearance. You need to pray to God and ask that the marriage was according to the will of God. It is most important. First of all, you need to think about what kind of heart she has, does she know how to sacrificially love, does she love children, is she ready to raise them, is she neat, is she ready to respect your opinion? These qualities are essential in marriage. No matter how beautiful a girl is, you will not put her in a corner and admire her for thirty years. In the end, she will age, her hair will turn gray, and changes in her figure will occur. But you do not marry in order to boast to your friends, but in order to live life with her. So that she loves you, so that she tolerates you, so that she cooks for you, so that she helps you. You yourself are far from being "Apollo".
I am very afraid when they turn to the so-called. “Elders” and those easily bless two unknown people for marriage. One has to be very careful with such "blessings". In our age, it is necessary to create a family with a girl for whom there is a feeling of love, and not with the one whom “the father said” to marry. Sometimes there is physical dislike for another person, something elusive in him is not pleasant. Someone else, maybe, will not notice this, but you notice and you are uncomfortable, unpleasant to be around. Someone sniffs, someone picks their teeth with a toothpick, someone straightens their clothes on themselves ugly. You need to make a decision, relying on God, having prayed, but yourself. You don't choose your parents, you don't choose your children, but you can choose your wife. And this choice is very serious. Talk to your confessor, consult with your parents.
