Uniting two families after a wedding can be a real challenge. You have additional parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents who need to get to know and report to.
But one of the most difficult relationships is between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It is not guaranteed that everyone will like each other and get along.
All jokes about the mother-in-law aside, getting along with your spouse's family can be a big blessing in the long run.
Even if you started off on the wrong foot, there is still something you can do to improve your relationship with her.
Besides, remember one thing. If you don't have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, your marriage is going to suffer. And it can even lead you to divorce.
So, it is better to make some effort to build a healthy relationship with her, for the good of all!
Sometimes it is difficult for a mother to let her son get married and have another wife in her life. It's a fit for everyone.
Try to be understanding and put yourself in her shoes. Think about how she might feel in certain situations and how you would feel if you were in her shoes.
In addition to communicating with your mother-in-law, it is also important to bring the issue to your husband's attention. He too needs to know what is going on and how you are feeling.
Don't expect him to take sides, however. If possible, allow him to remain as neutral as possible. Sure, you and your husband are a team, but it can be difficult for your partner to be stuck between his wife and mother.
Just voice your concerns and see if he has any advice on how to deal with the problem.
The time spent together one-on-one is wonderful. This allows you to get closer without distraction. Have coffee together or try one of her favorite hobbies. Be prepared to think outside the box and try something new.
It's important to remember to include her in your lives, especially if your spouse has a great relationship with her. Involve her in family activities, vacations, outings, and whatever else you can find time to get her to do. Like share her happy birthday mom images on her birthday.
Even something as trivial as going Christmas shopping can brighten up your day. Don't let her feel left out of your lives.
Make time for her one-on-one with your partner. I know it can be easy not to want to share your attention with another person, but it's important.
He may be your husband, but he is also her son. She also needs to spend time with him, especially if you normally live away from her.
No matter what kind of relationship you have with your mother-in-law, know that you both have one very important thing in common: you love and are proud of your man.
